Natural & Unnatural Emotions I suddenly remember I read about this topic in Neale Donald Walsch's books. What I decided to do is to give you some extracts and paragraphs from his book blended with my humble thoughts about these emotions.
"Grief is a natural emotion. It’s that part of you which allows you to say goodbye when you don’t want to say goodbye; to express—push out, propel—the sadness within you at the experience of any kind of loss. It could be the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a contact lens.
When you are allowed to express your grief, you get rid of it. Children who are allowed to be sad when they are sad feel very healthy about sadness when they are adults, and therefore usually move through their sadness very quickly.
Children who are told, “There, there, don’t cry,” have a hard time crying as adults. After all, they’ve been told all their life not to do that. So they repress their grief.
Grief that is continually repressed becomes chronic depression, a very unnatural emotion.
People have killed because of chronic depression. Wars have started, nations have fallen..."
There is an interesting exercise that I learn through years on how to deal with any negative emotions.
Step 1. I recognize them. They give me a feeling of not being comfortable in my physical, spiritual and emotional bodies. I do not feel at peace, in love and I do not feel happiness in my body.
Step 2. I ask questions. I ask myself: what made me feel this way? The emotion might come from a simple phone call. I noticed that most of the unnatural emotions come from our ego and our inability to acknowledge who we really are.
Step 3. I remove myself. I look at myself from the outside and remember who I really are. As I am Love the other does not matter: no anything else including negative events.words/actions can possibly trigger anything else inside of me which is not my true identity.
Step 4. I come back to who I really are.
But as Russians say: only a fool feels happy in this world... Should we take this old wise saying as an advise?
Let's move ahead with Donald Walsch:
"Anger is a natural emotion. It is the tool you have which allows you to say, “No, thank you.” It does not have to be abusive, and it never has to be damaging to another.
When children are allowed to express their anger, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their anger very quickly.
Children who are made to feel that their anger is not okay—that it is wrong to express it, and in fact, that they shouldn’t even experience it—will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their anger as adults.
Anger that is continually repressed becomes rage, a very unnatural emotion.
People have killed because of rage. Wars have started, nation have fallen.
Envy is a natural emotion. It is the emotion that makes a five-year-old wish he could reach the doorknob the way his sister can—or ride that bike. Envy is the natural emotion that makes you want to do it again; to try harder; to continue striving until you succeed. It is very healthy to be envious, very natural. When children are allowed to express their envy, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their envy very quickly.
Children who are made to feel that envy is not okay—that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn’t even experience it—will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their envy as adults."
Envy that is continually repressed becomes jealousy, a very unnatural emotion.
People have killed because of jealousy. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
I remember the day when my Envy was gone: it was a conscious decision and I remember a relief as I was freed from the tires that were holding me from my higher self... Great thing to experience!
"Fear is a natural emotion. All babies are born with only two fears: the fears of falling, and the fear of loud noises. All other fears are learned responses, brought to the child by its environment, taught to the child by its parents. The purpose of natural fear is to build in a bit of caution. Caution is a tool that helps keep the body alive. It is an outgrowth of love. Love of Self.
Children who are made to feel that fear is not okay—that it is wrong to express it, and in fact, that they shouldn’t even experience it—will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their fear as adults.
Fear that is continually repressed becomes panic, a very unnatural emotion.
People have killed because of panic. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
Love is a natural emotion. When it is allowed to be expressed, and received, by a child, normally and naturally without limitation or condition, inhibition or embarrassment, it does not require anything more. For the joy of love expressed and received in this way is sufficient unto itself. Yet love which has been conditioned, limited, warped by rules and regulations, rituals and restrictions, controlled, manipulated, and withheld, becomes unnatural.
Children who are made to feel that their natural love is not okay—that it is wrong to express it, and in fact, that they shouldn’t even experience it—will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with love as adults.
Love that is continually repressed becomes possessiveness, a very unnatural emotion.
People have killed because of possessiveness. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
And so it is that the natural emotions, when repressed, product unnatural reactions and responses. And most natural emotions are repressed in most people. Yet these are your friends. There are your gifts. These are your divine tools, with which to craft your experience.
You are given these tools at birth. They are to help you negotiate life."
I can not say better than the above nor I can add anything to it... Except I do not think I will ever overcome Fear, although I never panic-ed.
While I was preparing this extract for you I just remembered some nice wording from one of Neale's books on True Emotions and True Feelings:
How can I act with love when all my previous experience is screaming at me that a particular “moment” is likely to be painful?
Ignore your previous experience and go into the moment. Be Here Now. See what there is to work with right now in creating yourself anew.
Remember, this is what you are doing here.
You have come to this world in this way, at this time, in this place, to Know Who You Are—and to create Who You Wish to Be.
This is the purpose of all of life. Life is an ongoing, never-ending process of re-creation. You keep recreating your selves in the image of your next highest idea about yourselves.
In any emotion seek to build, not to destroy:
"Seek only Godliness. Speak only in truthfulness. Act only in love..."
Your mind can, and does, make decisions and choices from one of at least three interior levels: logic, intuition, emotion—and sometimes from all three— producing the potential for even more inner conflict.And within one of those levels—emotion—there are five more levels. These are the five natural emotions: grief, anger, envy, fear, and love.
And within these, also, there are two final levels: love and fear.
The five natural emotions include love and fear, yet love and fear are the basis of all emotions. The other three of the five natural emotions are outgrowths of these two.
Ultimately, all thoughts are sponsored by love or fear. This is the great polarity. This is the primal duality. Everything, ultimately, breaks down to one of these. All thoughts, ideas, concepts, understandings, decisions, choices, and actions are based in one of these:
And, in the end, there is really only one.
In truth, love is all there is. Even fear is an outgrowth of love, and when used effectively, expresses love.
Similarly, moving up the scale of natural emotions, grief, anger, and envy are all some form of fear, which, in turn, is some form of love." by Neale Donald Walsch