INSULT AND WHY IT SHOULD NEVER WORK NEW source (partially)
today I resume publishing some of the interesting findings from my files:
“Death is our eternal companion, it is always to our left, at an arm’s length. How can anyone feel so important when we know that death is stalking us. The thing to do when you’re feeling impatient or overwhelmed is to turn to your left and ask advice from your death. An immense amount of pettiness is dropped if your death makes a gesture to you, or if you catch a glimpse of it, or if you just have the feeling that your companion is there watching you. The issue of our death is never pressed far enough by most of us. Death is the only wise adviser that we have. And if pressed far enough, it forces us to change—and fast.
“We have to learn to remind ourselves again and again that death is the hunter, and that it is always to our left. We have to ask death’s advice and drop the cursed pettiness that belongs to those who live their lives as if death will never tap them.
“If we don’t, our lives will just be chaos.
“A person of real knowledge knows that his death is stalking him and that it won’t give him time to cling to anything. Thus it is with this awareness of his death, that a person with some real perspective sets his life in a very wise and strategic order, and chooses what is always strategically the best. He performs everything he has to with verve and efficiency.
“Life for a warrior, for a man of knowledge, is an exercise in strategy.
“Without the awareness of death everything is ordinary, trivial. It is only because death is stalking us that the world is an unfathomable mystery.
“You have so little time and no time for crap. What a wonderfully wretched state to be in! The best in us always comes out when our back is against the wall, when we feel the sword dangling overhead. I wouldn’t want it any other way.”
a small article on INSULT AND WHY IT SHOULD NEVER WORK i like Osho's philosophy but can elaborate more on this subject by saying it all in a very short paragraph: "the insult will never work for an enlightened being: if you know already who you are you forgive the same instant the insult is directed upon you.... and why should you be upset on the insult the person is projecting on you? if this is no truth ignore it (as you know it is not the truth as you are not what you have been called, accused of doing etc)... if it is the truth why should you be upset at it? - listen to it and follow the criticism ... it is always good ti listen to the truth spoken by your mirror / your reflection - who else is going to tell you that?... if you still feel offended think about the above written "on death" and keep growing... childish behavior is cool but only when it is cool... when you act seriously as a child it is small.... act big, act wise...act as a wise child.
on a funny note... the joke was born the other day when Alex and I were driving... listen:
some people leave nothing when they touch your life and leave some people leave just lots of crap some people leave the light after they leave... I have been telling the latter ones: "please switch off the lights when you leave, save the electricity, save the planet! I do not care what you leave - just leave and better leave nothing behind you" (that one can be a very good Carlos Castaneda's quote btw :) )
“Look at how he abused me and beat me, how he threw me down and robbed me.” Live with such thoughts and you live in hate. “Look at how he abused me and beat me, how he threw me down and robbed me.” Abandon such thoughts, and live in love. In this world hate has never yet dispelled hate. Only love dispels hate. This is the law (the Way), ancient and inexhaustible. You too shall pass away. Knowing this, how can you quarrel? - Buddha
He does not take offense and he does not give it. He never returns evil for evil. Obviously, if somebody insults him he does not take it. You cannot insult a master, that is impossible. How can you insult a man who does not take it? To insult a man two things are needed: somebody to insult him and his readiness to take it. Once Buddha was insulted very much by a few people. They abused him badly. He listened silently and then he said, “Have you anything more to say? - because I have to reach the other village in time. People must be waiting there. If you still have something else to say, when I come back I will be coming by the same route and I will inform you and I will keep a special time for you, so you can come and say whatsoever you like.” Those people were very much puzzled. They said, “We are not saying something, we are insulting you!” Buddha laughed. He said, “For that you have come a little late. You should have come at least ten years ago. Now I am not so foolish. You can insult, that is your freedom, but whether to take it or not that is my freedom. I am not taking it.” And he said to them, “In the other village which I just passed before yours, people came with sweets to offer me. I thanked them. I said, ‘I don’t need sweets and I don’t eat sweets.’ What do you think they must have done with the sweets?” Somebody from the crowd said, “They must have taken them back home.” Buddha said, “Now what will you do? You will have to take your insults back home. I don’t take your insults - there is no other way, you have to take them back.” When you feel insulted you have participated with the person. But you are not conscious, so anybody can push your buttons. You function like a machine: push the button and you are on; push the button and you are off. Anybody can enrage you, anybody can make you smile and laugh, anybody can make you cry and weep. Anybody, any stupid fellow can do that! One just needs to know where the buttons are - and almost always they are in the same places. It is very rare to find a person whose buttons are in different places. A Polack was driving his Volkswagen, when suddenly it stopped for some reason. He went to look - maybe there was some trouble in the engine - but he could not find the engine. So he thought, “My God, my engine has been stolen!” Just then another Polack stopped by his side. He said, “Is there some trouble?” The first man said, “Yes, it seems my engine has been stolen.” The man said, “Don’t be worried. This morning I was looking at the back of my car - there is a spare engine. You can take it!” Now in a Volkswagen the engine is not in the usual place; it is at the back, not in the front. But God has not yet learned anything from the Volkswagen - he still makes the same engine with the same buttons, maybe a little bit different here and there, just a little change. Anybody can find.just a little groping and you can find anybody else’s button. If you know your buttons you know everybody else’s buttons. You will be in a difficulty only with a buddha, because you can go on pushing his buttons and nothing will happen because he is no more identified with his mechanism. He will watch you pushing his buttons and he will enjoy the exercise that you are giving him, but that’s all. He does not take offense and he does not give it. He never returns evil for evil. He understands humanity so deeply. By understanding himself he has understood the miserable state of all human beings. He feels sorry for people; he is compassionate. He does not return evil for evil for the simple reason that he does not feel offended in the first place. Secondly, he feels sorry for you; he does not feel antagonistic towards you. Once it happened in Baroda: I was talking to a big crowd. Somebody sitting just in the front row became so disturbed by what I was saying, he became so disturbed by it he went out of control, he lost his senses. He threw one of his shoes at me. At that moment I remembered that I used to play volleyball when I was a student, so I caught hold of his shoe in the middle and asked him for the other one. He was at a loss. I said, “You throw the other one too! What am I going to do with one? If you want to present something..” He waited. I said, “Why are you waiting? Throw the other one too, because this way neither will I be able to use the shoe nor will you be able to use it. And I am not going to return it, because evil should not be returned for evil! So you please give the other one too.” He was so shocked because he could not believe it.first, what he had done he could not believe - he was a very good man, a scholar, a well-known Sanskrit scholar, a pundit. He was not expected to behave like that, but it had happened - people are so unconscious. If I had acted the way he was unconsciously expecting, then everything would have been okay. But I asked for the other shoe, and that shocked him very much. He was dazed. I told somebody who was sitting by his side, “You pull off his other shoe. I am not letting him off, I want both the shoes. In fact, I was thinking of purchasing some shoes, and this man seems to be so generous!” And the shoe was really new. The man came in the night, fell at my feet, and asked to be forgiven. I said, “You forget all about it, there is no question.. I was not angry, so why should I forgive you? To forgive, one first has to be angry. I was not angry, I enjoyed the scene. In fact, it was something so beautiful that many people who had fallen asleep were suddenly awakened! I was thinking on the way that it is a good idea, that I should plant a few of my followers, so once in a while they can throw a shoe so all the sleepers wake up. At least for a few moments they will remain alert because something is happening! I am thankful to you.” For years he went on writing to me, “Please forgive me! Unless you forgive me I will go on writing.” But I told him, “First I have to be angry. Forgiving you simply means that I accept that I was angry. How can I forgive you? You forgive me, because I am unable to be angry with you, unable to forgive you - you forgive me!” I don’t know whether he has forgiven me or not, but he has forgotten me. Now he writes no more. Alas for the man, Buddha says, Who raises his hand against another, and even more for him who returns the blow. Why Alas for the man who raises his hand against another.? Because he is raising his hand against himself, because there is no one who is other. All existence is one. When you hit somebody you are hitting yourself. You are simply being childish. It is the same reality: I am one of its waves, you are another of its waves. One wave hitting another wave in the ocean - they are both hitting themselves. Alas for the man who raises his hand against another, and even more for him who returns the blow. Why more for him? - because then he creates a vicious circle. And that’s how we are living, in many, many vicious circles. People go on fighting; once something starts then it seems there is no end to it. You do something in revenge and the other has to wait for his opportunity to do something against you, then you do something against him, and so on and so forth. It goes on from one life to another life, it continues. The wise person is one, the master is one, who stops all these vicious circles. Once a man came and spat on Buddha’s face, he was so angry. Buddha asked him, “Is that all or do you want to do something more? Please do it and finish it.” The man asked, “What do you mean - ‘Please do it and finish it’?” Buddha said, “In a past life I had insulted you and now the time has come when the vicious circle can be closed. Now you insult me and I will not return anything; I will simply accept it and close the circle - it is just to close the accounts with you. I was waiting for you; in fact, the day I came into this town I was hoping that you would come and you would do something and the accounts could be closed. This is my last vicious circle; I have closed all others. Now I am out of all vicious circles. I am thankful to you; otherwise something was hanging in the air - only one thread, but something was hanging in the air, something incomplete. “Now the circle is complete and I don’t want to continue it anymore. Now it is up to me to continue or not to continue. Now I am the master; up to now you were the master. By spitting on my face your mastery is gone; now I am the master and I don’t want to continue this vicious circle anymore. This is my last life and I want to close all accounts with everyone - good accounts, bad accounts, all kinds of accounts have to be closed - so that I can disappear into the ultimate with no strings attached to the world. I am immensely happy,” Buddha said to him. Resist the pleasures of life and the desire to hurt - till sorrows vanish. Pleasure is dependent on others, and whatsoever is dependent on others will make you a slave, will create a bondage. And Buddha’s ultimate goal is freedom, nirvana - freedom from all bondage. Hence all the awakened ones have been saying: Search for bliss. Don’t waste your time in ordinary pleasures. In the first place they are momentary; in the second place every pleasure brings pain. Pain is the other side of the same coin. It brings pain in the same proportion; the greater the pleasure, the greater the pain. So when you are enjoying something, be aware: soon the pain will follow; it is inevitable. Just as the day follows the night and the night follows the day, pain and pleasure follow each other. They are not separate, they are inseparable. First, pleasures are momentary, they are just soap-bubbles. To waste your precious life for them is simply stupid, unintelligent. Second, every pleasure brings pain. But people are so foolish that they never look at the association. They think pain has come from some other source, they think pleasures can be forever. Again and again they are ditched by their pleasures into pain; again and again they go on thinking that there were some reasons why this pleasure was destroyed. Whether reasons were there or not is irrelevant; every pleasure is momentary, it is going to disappear, and in its wake the pain.. You can rationalize it; that rationalization will only help you to continue in the same old rut. But see the fact. Seeing the truth is a great liberation; seeing that every pleasure is inevitably a bringer of pain, you will be freed from both. And third: it is the same energy that is involved in pleasure which has to move towards bliss. Pleasure is dependent on others; bliss is totally independent, it is your own. It arises within your being, it is your self-nature; hence you are not dependent on anybody. And because it is your self-nature it is forever. There is no contrary, there is no opposite to bliss.
MICHAEL GLADKOFF'S SEMINAR: SPEECH POWER website press release by Jennifer Zaman
Speech Power: The Leader’s Guide to Creating Powerful Presentations 17 November, 2016 Victoria University, City Flinders Campus
The Director of “Word Nerds”, Mr. Michael Gladkoff, conducted a day-long workshop on speech power and ways to create more persuasive and memorable speeches and presentations. In February this year, he authored a book by the same name as that of the workshop, which plays the guide. The Speech Power module focused on how to influence, inform and inspire audiences in any situation. Michael exhibited immense practical knowledge gained through his experiences and achievements. He articulately talked about how best to plan presentations and speeches to yield attention of different groups of audiences.
Mr. Gadkoff designed an interesting set of ideas and format, which is unique to his style and rare by degree. Citing instances faced by him personally went a long way in elaborating the various elements of drafting a successful speech and presentation. The session was very interactive and every participant got ample chances to share relevant incidents and personal opinion on various chapters of the Speech Power module.
Vast experiences went into developing this standard of a workshop and it was evident in the confidence Michael emoted. With sheer ease, he explained to the participants the techniques of combining credibility, logic, and emotions to maximize persuasiveness. He also suggested the use of stories to relate to the listeners and demonstrated modes of establishing strong connections thereby. The workshop also covered essential language parameters that are paramount for both speech and writing skills.
The Speech Power module developed from the manure of incredible work done by Michael for decades now. He began his long journey in public speaking as a member of Toastmasters in the mid-1980s. Years later, in 2004, he began creating speeches and presentations for leaders across Australia in business, government, health, and education sectors. He has also taught communication skills at corporations and not-for-profit organizations including Siemens Ltd, the Australian Red Cross, the American Chamber of Commerce in Australia, Professional Speakers Australia and TiE Melbourne. Adding to this list, the other organizations Michael has, so far, assisted include Amcor, ANZ, Bendigo Bank, Carlton United Breweries, CSL Ltd, Electrolux, Harvey Norman, Institute of Chartered Accountants, James Cook University and NRMA.
As a public speaker, Michael has won numerous awards for his inspirational and humorous speeches as a member of Dandenong Ranges Toastmasters. He is, undoubtedly, one of the most talented speech writers Australia has witnessed. His workshop was enriching and left me wanting for more. He is a boon to anyone aspiring to learn effective speech techniques. His sessions are beneficial to corporate personals, students, government officials, leaders, and people in general willing to master the art. He has a flexible approach and gladly caters to the requirements of his participants.